This is mostly aimed at the guys, so here goes. I look at posts by these beautiful young ladies on Xanga and I also see them in my everyday life just looking for a man that will be committed. Why is it so hard for guys to be committed? I see these girls here on Xanga for instance looking for a guy that wants a woman that will love them. What guy doesn't want that, and there are plenty of ladies out there that are ready and willing to love. But what is wrong with the guys? Why does committment scare them so much? Do you guys actually think all those expensive toys you want will satisfy? I see guys that want too badly to have the nice sporty car, a boat even, a nice house. There is nothing wrong with wanting these things, but sacrificing love that loves you back in return is foolish. I'm not saying go get married if you don't have the means to support yourself and a bride, but I AM saying that if you can load up on all the newest technology, weither it be cell phones, computers, video games, cars, any of this stuff, and still have an excuse that you are waiting til you can afford to be married, then thats a crock. Guys, wake up and see these beauties in front of you for the jewels they are and grab them before it's too late. And they are not there to be taken advantage of either, they are to be respected and loved. Guys, haven't you met a girl that makes you want to improve yourself, become a better man? Don't waste your time with all the meaningless things of this world to waste your time and money on. There is no greater value on this earth than the value of a good woman, so WHY are you passing them up. They are everywhere. And when you do fine that one, make HER your life, not your friends, your stuff or even your family. That is your parents family, you start YOUR own family. Yes, it is a tough road at times, but WELL worth all the bumps. Ladies, sex is not how you attract a keeper. Find a guy that just wants sex before marriage and you have yourself a selfish man who will NOT be looking after your interests. A good man that will make a good husband will not demand sex before marriage. Guys, you who are already married and maybe wish you weren't or you are putting stuff and your friends as more important than your wife, you need to rethink things. You may say, "well, you just don't know what I have to put up with" Well, let me tell you, I will guarantee you that she can say the same thing about you. Look at things from her point of view and see how you would like to be treated the way you treat her! If you are honest, I would imagine most of you guys would duck your heads, I know I do when I really think about how I treat my wife at times. Not really sure why I am writing this other than just seeing the multitude of ladies wanting a partner for life and so few men willing to commit to that mostly because they want stuff, when that stuff can NEVER trully satisfy. Why do you think God made woman? So you can satisfy each other as you serve Him. Not so she can be YOUR servant but so you can love each other and have a companion that is real. You help her in her weaknesses and she helps you in your weaknesses. Trust me guys, you have PLENTY of weaknesses only a good wife can help you with. Anyway, I guess I'll stop rambling now. Don't know if any of this helps or hurts. All I know is, don't run from marriage, embrase it guys. Love her with all your heart and you will not be disapointed. Take care and have a great week! ~Grampy~
If the guy is not ready to commit, maybe he should not commit. The divorce rate is 50%? Perhaps people are committing before they are ready.
You are such a wise man, Grampy. ;)
@sweet_sinceritee - @Kristenmomof3 - what they said ;D great post Grampy....this is what i've come to expect from you. now i'm spoiled. haha.
@TheTheologiansCafe - Yes Dan, thats true, I'm just saying they need to wake up and not be afraid of commitment! If they would BE committed, there would not be a problem with divorce!
This was so true. I'm gonna make my husband read it... lol
Amen and Amen....as I have tried to tell my daughters for years...look for a guy in the right place...the chances of finding someone who is willing to commit their lives and their hearts to you in a bar or at a wild party are not too great!!! Unfortunately, they havent always listened to me...much to their sorrow. Ruth Ann
Awesome post! I love it =]
Rec'd, and if I could rec it again, I would. Great post, Grampy!
LOL! This is the sweetest post ever! Love it!:) Ha ha!
I was actually the one who found my boyfriend his dream car.
preach IT!
I have found a girl, except we're in college and I got to a college out of town so we don't see each other much at all. That being said we're still young so anything can happen. I'm pretty committed though, just up to her now.
Awesome post! I was just talking with a friend about this yesterday...Why is it that guys can't get it together? I don't know. This was a really a good reminder. Thanks!
Reminds me of a line from Madea's Family Reunion, an elderly woman was talking about how she and her husband were just the right fit for each other and she had the privledge of having a man just made for her. She finished her speech by lamenting how the young women would never know such a thing because our culture doesn't allow for that sort of commitment.
Great post! Although I just got out of a relationship with a girl who was not commited. Perhaps some of the girls guys have in mind aren't ready yet either. Anyways Props!
Great post!
You know Grampy this is the best article/message I've read in sometime (years) from a Man to another Men! I'm so serious it is a really wonderful, powerful post! I like to ask you if I can post this to my other site's...let me know.
God bless you and thank you!
@Gail2 - If you would like to, us it however you like. Thanks!
applauds.
this is such a great post :D My boyfriend told me that he used to be pretty un-committed- but now he is :D I loved reading this! Thanks so much.
You are right; Jason doesn't need to be griped at. And he won't even see that post. I was just frustrated because I couldn't find the keys, the lady who was interested in maybe buying the place was already there, and I had no way to get there. Then, she called and said she had to go see another place. I, of course, had to be a pessimist for a bit, and so I started thinking, "She's going to like the other place and not even look at ours. All because I can't find the keys, and I can't find them because Jason took all of them to work with him again." And therefore, although he won't see the post, I know that I need to apologize to him when he gets home.
Also, this is a good post. I saw a comment saying that people shouldn't commit if they're not ready, and I just wanted to say that I know that's not what you're saying. Obviously there are people who really aren't ready to commit. Then there are those who just don't realize that they're ready. They think toys will make them happy, like you said. And sure that stuff is fun to have, but that's not all there is to life.
I see a lot of people that simply aren't choosing or planning well. They shack up/sleep with or even commit to the wrong person rather than be lonely. Many have not learned to be alone and be comfortable with themselves so they look for others to take up that space.
Stuff is great, but when you leave this earth (and you will) none of it is going with you. The only that is, is your memories. I can't imagine anything more boring and sad than spending eternity remembering video games, fancy cars and junk while the world went by totally unnoticed. Even more sad when that world is your family.great post as usually grampy.
I'm not necessarily afraid of commitment.. its just the idea of marrying someone and ending up being played and stuff like that that makes me think twice about commitment...
I know, i know....not everyone is like that, but you get my point..
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Great post Grampy
If the guy is not ready to commit, maybe he should not commit. The divorce rate is 50%? Perhaps people are committing before they are ready.
You are such a wise man, Grampy. ;)
@sweet_sinceritee - @Kristenmomof3 - what they said ;D great post Grampy....this is what i've come to expect from you. now i'm spoiled. haha.
@TheTheologiansCafe - Yes Dan, thats true, I'm just saying they need to wake up and not be afraid of commitment! If they would BE committed, there would not be a problem with divorce!
This was so true. I'm gonna make my husband read it... lol
Amen and Amen....as I have tried to tell my daughters for years...look for a guy in the right place...the chances of finding someone who is willing to commit their lives and their hearts to you in a bar or at a wild party are not too great!!! Unfortunately, they havent always listened to me...much to their sorrow.
Ruth Ann
Awesome post! I love it =]
Rec'd, and if I could rec it again, I would. Great post, Grampy!
LOL! This is the sweetest post ever! Love it!:) Ha ha!
I was actually the one who found my boyfriend his dream car.
preach IT!
I have found a girl, except we're in college and I got to a college out of town so we don't see each other much at all. That being said we're still young so anything can happen. I'm pretty committed though, just up to her now.
Awesome post! I was just talking with a friend about this yesterday...Why is it that guys can't get it together? I don't know. This was a really a good reminder. Thanks!
Reminds me of a line from Madea's Family Reunion, an elderly woman was talking about how she and her husband were just the right fit for each other and she had the privledge of having a man just made for her. She finished her speech by lamenting how the young women would never know such a thing because our culture doesn't allow for that sort of commitment.
Great post! Although I just got out of a relationship with a girl who was not commited. Perhaps some of the girls guys have in mind aren't ready yet either. Anyways Props!
Great post!
You know Grampy this is the best article/message I've read in sometime (years) from a Man to another Men! I'm so serious it is a really wonderful, powerful post! I like to ask you if I can post this to my other site's...let me know.
God bless you and thank you!
@Gail2 - If you would like to, us it however you like. Thanks!
applauds.
this is such a great post :D My boyfriend told me that he used to be pretty un-committed- but now he is :D I loved reading this! Thanks so much.
You are right; Jason doesn't need to be griped at. And he won't even see that post. I was just frustrated because I couldn't find the keys, the lady who was interested in maybe buying the place was already there, and I had no way to get there. Then, she called and said she had to go see another place. I, of course, had to be a pessimist for a bit, and so I started thinking, "She's going to like the other place and not even look at ours. All because I can't find the keys, and I can't find them because Jason took all of them to work with him again." And therefore, although he won't see the post, I know that I need to apologize to him when he gets home.
Also, this is a good post. I saw a comment saying that people shouldn't commit if they're not ready, and I just wanted to say that I know that's not what you're saying. Obviously there are people who really aren't ready to commit. Then there are those who just don't realize that they're ready. They think toys will make them happy, like you said. And sure that stuff is fun to have, but that's not all there is to life.
I see a lot of people that simply aren't choosing or planning well. They shack up/sleep with or even commit to the wrong person rather than be lonely. Many have not learned to be alone and be comfortable with themselves so they look for others to take up that space.
Stuff is great, but when you leave this earth (and you will) none of it is going with you. The only that is, is your memories. I can't imagine anything more boring and sad than spending eternity remembering video games, fancy cars and junk while the world went by totally unnoticed. Even more sad when that world is your family.great post as usually grampy.I'm not necessarily afraid of commitment.. its just the idea of marrying someone and ending up being played and stuff like that that makes me think twice about commitment...
I know, i know....not everyone is like that, but you get my point..
Great post
This is lovely :]